Regardless of the reason a client comes in, Graf Stress Management uses the same signature technique with all: the Stress Evaluation, a question/answer /muscle test format which draws information from the client’s intelligence to identify problem-causing stress.
Those who haven’t experienced muscle testing may find it hard to envision the way it works and there’s no substitute for direct experience. But in brief, it appears to operate on the same principle as the polygraph, which registers different physiological responses for true or false answers to questions.
With muscle testing, the client is asked a question and answers it. Following the answer, the consultant applies pressure to a contracted indicator muscle on the client’s body while the client tries to resist. When the answer given by the client is correct, his energy (as demonstrated in his indicator muscle) remains strong. When the answer is incorrect, the energy field is momentarily weakened and there will be a corresponding loss of muscle strength. Graf Stress Management uses this muscle test to pinpoint, by process of elimination, the specific stresses causing problems for a client.
Applied kinesiology appears simple but it is an art more difficult than it looks, and it requires a great deal of practice to be used skillfully. It is also subject to constraints, the foremost being that it works reliably only with willing participants; it cannot be used to force information out of a person with any degree of accuracy. Its accuracy can be compromised by either party trying to “control” the outcome to get a desired answer. Both persons should make a sincere effort to be neutral. That said, when both are intent on accuracy, applied kinesiology is a highly accurate diagnostic tool in stress management.
A third caveat is that applied kinesiology is best used in its proper sphere. Graf Stress Management limits its use to those things clients legitimately need to know for their health and well-being. Some devotees claim that applied kinesiology can answer virtually any question in the universe (see Power vs. Force, by David R. Hawkins, M.D.) but we do not share that conclusion. We don’t believe it’s properly used as a crystal ball to inquire about the private details of another person’s life, diagnose car problems, make investment decisions, or predict future events. Nor is it a parlor trick. Above all, it should not be used to circumvent the important growth process of learning to use our free agency to make right choices.
On my second visit as a client to Jan Graf, I received a memorable lesson about when not to use muscle testing. I had gone in with some symptoms that made me suspect I was pregnant, and muscle testing confirmed that indeed I was. Predictably, my next question was: “Is it a boy or a girl?” Graf smiled, stopped muscle testing and replied, “I could tell you, but I’d have a 50% chance of being wrong.” What he meant was that he was unwilling to use muscle testing for this sort of question. The gender of my baby was not something I needed to know for my well-being and therefore, not an appropriate use of muscle testing. The only answer he’d be willing to give was a guess. I’m aware that others use muscle testing for this and other similar questions, perhaps even getting accurate answers, but the philosophy of Graf Stress Management is that applied kinesiology is rightly restricted on a need-to-know basis.